On Exhibitionism, COVID-19, and Sex Parties
Dave, one of the co-founders of Everything To Sea, offers a stream-of-consciousness post dealing with the present, the past, and the future, in an honest and daring take on himself sexually.
So my girlfriend looked at me the other day with her head cocked, and said, “I’d say you’re an exhibitionist.” I laughed and said, “Aw honey, come on… I’ve got an all-male naked sailing company. Of course I am.”
I was thinking about that when I was getting dressed to go for a run earlier today. I run with only a pair of thin shorts and a cockring. And I’m always freeballing. No briefs, no shirt, no socks, no cap… nothing else, besides running shoes. Ok, I’m an exhibitionist, and proud of it (what exhibitionist isn’t?)
During my run, I played some music. I heard a song from several years back, and it got me to thinking about Covid. The song’s called “7” (Ursula Rucker and m.a.d.). It’s about two people who have lost the love they once had. And they’re figuring their next steps.
I’m self-quarantining right now, because a week ago I flew halfway across the world. Perhaps I’m a bit too entrenched in CoronavirusThoughts, but it struck me during my run that there’s a parallel between the song I was listening to, and this pandemic. With Corona, we’ve all lost something – not love, but a lifestyle – and we, too are figuring out our next steps.
So much has been lost, right? As for me, I especially miss cafes, and dinners with friends. I miss Everything To Sea trips (we were supposed to be starting our sailing season again this month, but Max and I canceled the trip out of safety concerns). I miss chatting with people in my village in Bali. I know those things will come back. Perhaps there’ll be differing timelines for them, but I know they all will. As my dad told me the other day, things may seem lost, but they’re not… they’re just deferred.

However, there’s a loss now that I cannot stop thinking about: sex. And it’s not just because I’m alone. It’s just that I can’t help but look back – just like they do in that song. The difference is, I’m remembering all the sex parties I’ve attended over the years. See, in addition to exhibitionism, I like group sex. And yet, group play seems like an almost unimaginable scene to me, now that Corona’s appeared. I don’t see it changing anytime soon. Has Coronavirus made casual sex a thing of the past? Would love to read other guys’ thoughts on this… feel free to comment below.
By Dave Power, Co-Founder, Everything To Sea
What a delicious post. I am quarantined at home and being single it is reminiscent of my years as a solitary (another story for another time) so actually took to it fairly quickly and relishing the positives…silence, sounds of nature previously unheard due to the 21st century machinery incessantly producing background noise now mostly gone, and the ability to wear my oock gear and no pants 24/7….so thanks for the resonance!
…so about group sex…social distancing…I have been fantasizing a lot about group masturbation…exposing in front of men and women all pleasuring themselves….and it as been lovely….as an idea….so I think that’s perhaps a way you might organize a group sex lite for yourself ( as I imagine you are a commensurate organizer!)
I want to get on one of your boats for sure…and I imagine the timing of this whole global pandemic has dented your fledgling company and I would love to at least toy with the idea of both supporting your venture and experiencing it sooner than later…a guy can dream right?!
Gppd luck…I am so happy I stumbled into your website
Hi Howell,
Thanks for your comment! Glad it resonated on those levels. Yes, you are right about the “dent”, but we are still good… and excited to get on to the water again au natural, and experience that wonderful sense of freedom 🙂
It’d be great to meet you on one of our trips. Of course, we’re still taking bookings for trips for the future (see the “Book Your Trip” tab for actual dates available). So instead of dreaming, you can experience it live! Feel free to email me directly at [email protected] should you have any specific questions. Naked regards, Dave
Ha! Great post! The first thing I thought of when I was going through the initial self-quarantine phase was, “when this is over, the first thing I am going for is a massive orgy!” LOL! I have calmed down since and am enjoying my alone time surprisingly (and coming across your company and this fantastic website!). All your offerings sound incredible and I would love to get on a private journey with you and Max later this year or early next when things have (hopefully) calmed down! Till then, will continue dreaming about getting on one of your boats in the near future!
Thanks, Todd. “The first thing I am going for is a massive orgy” – that is hilarious (and probably reflecting the sentiment of so many). You sound like fun. I’m so excited to get back on the water and sail through those islands naked…
I’ve always enjoyed my me-time, but after a couple of weeks of home stay, I’m longing to touch and to be touched.
On the other hand, I’m fully enjoying being naked days on end and I don’t care anymore of being seen on my nice terrace which is not fully secluded. I even fantasise of someone watching me ????
For sure things will have changed because of this situation, but I don’t think meeting up and random or group sex will have become something of the past. On the contrary, I think people will appreciate it more. The joy and excitement of exploring the passion with others, just for the heck of it. At least I hope so!
I booked on one of this year’s sailing trips and after months of anticipation and fantasising, the cancellation made the quarantine double, triple as hard.
Really looking forward to next year and an unforgettable, week long sailing trip, naked, in good company and bountiful of all the fun one can have, with perfect strangers who may become perfect friends
We’ll surely wait for you, Johan!
Thanks for writing this–and, btw, loved you guy’s presentation a couple of nights ago on the “Go Naked” call! But, in response to your good post, I need to ask you old you are? Because I’m 71 and lived through the AIDS epidemic (and thankfully survived). But the question you ask was the same one then….will it ever be safe to have sex with a man again….or woman for that matter….ever again? Or, good Lord….an orgy? Yeah, we remember those! (I also a survivor of the bathhouse era, when I was first coming out, even). So this is all to say–hang in there (you obviously have the “hang” part down very well)! WE will all get through this, but life has a way of making us “change the rules” a bit every now and then. Big NAKED hug to you and all my like-minded brothers out there from mid-Hudson valley of NY state…..and hopefully we can all go sailing again VERY soon. –
Thank you, Organbuff, for your comments! Your perspective is really good: we will all get through this, but life has a way of making us “change the rules” a bit every now and then. We’ve recently changed our protocols, reflecting this new era of travel. Fact is, if we want to travel now, we need to take some extra measures. Just like in the decade after AIDS surfaced… people could still have sex, but there were some behaviour modifications that most people undertook, to do it in a safer style. I guess an alternative would be to abstain from sex… and naked sailing trips. Neither option sounds like a good one to me!
Cheers,
Dave
Talking about exhibitionism…seems it can be developed from an unthinkable thought to something exciting, to something too dangerous, further on to something thrilling, I can’t think of it but can’t stop thinking of it, might not be deadly, might not cause disaster, well I really want to try but where and how, and THERE the first fully nude photo posted! Nothing hidden, full display, I’m naked and showing myself on a site!
The world didn’t change at all, it was no big deal, no need being fearful. Just pleasant knowing that others can see me naked. My body is not a hot model type, just ordinary. All bodies look alike, but they come in different models.
I know that photos of me are on different sites and thats fine, I like it. Even several times in the Go Naked Magazine.
Living as much as possible naked, free from clothes is a relief!
Andrew –
That’s some great, honest writing there. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! “I really want to try but where and how” – Hey, that’s why we set up Everything To Sea! We want to give guys another opportunity to “try”.
Where? On one of our boats, safely and comfortably.
How? Select a date to join us, and put a $200 deposit down for that trip. We promise we’ll walk you through the rest – from travel logistics, to pre-departure destination info, to tips regarding nudity, to the experience itself! Take the next step here: https://www.everythingtosea.com/booking
Naked regards,
Dave
i also miss group sex. or just being naked with other guys at the gym in the steam room. Joining one of your cruises is definitely on my list of things to do in the coming year assuming Americans are allowed to travel to other countries soon. I find it fascinating you run an all male naked sailing company but also have a girlfriend. i’m curious what sort of sex parties interest you? And what’s it like for you being on a boat full of gay (i assume mostly) naked men? Perhaps you fall on the spectrum somewhere between gay and straight? Great blog btw and i look forward to the day i can be on board your ship. 🙂
Hi Steve, thanks for writing. So much has changed, especially in terms of groups. But, we’re still sailing. Write to us ([email protected]) if you have questions. Now is the time to sail, we have some great offers for singles. Restrictions are lifting, slowly, it really depends on where you’re coming from. I believe your question about the spectrum may be better suited for Dave, I’ll let him handle that one 🙂 Thanks for reading the blog, we’re glad you enjoy it. I’ve got a great article that’s ready to come out this week. Stay tuned 🙂 Darren
Glad I found this site (from NakedMates in the U.K.). I think a period onboard your boat may be just what I need next year. I love to be naked and I love water in all forms. So an ideal combination.
As for pleasures, I miss the thrill of meeting and touching a new friend. Of agreeing to enjoy each other because we want to and we can. Enjoying that on board your boat surrounded with others sounds delicious.
Those double beds have a lovely view when on all fours I’m sure, and the communal decking in the evening with a gentle breeze will make the pleasure even more intense I’m sure. The wildlife is a big draw too but not as much as enjoying new friends in a new rhythm.
Coronavirus is an issue but sailing across the sea naked, caring, and enjoying each other makes things feel safer…
Hi Jim,
we share your thoughts exactly. Well stated. The Covid pandemic has made us all rethink what some likely took for granted. Even simple things. We’d love to have you on board! We have strict protocols in place to ensure everyone’s safety (while still having a blast, naked.) Please send us a message if you have any questions [email protected] or you can book here: https://www.everythingtosea.com/booking/ Thanks for checking out our site/blog. -Darren
I so agree with this post. I’m a big exhibitionist too and while I miss some of the group sex sometimes, I enjoy showing off in safer environments now, like skype. The bars are back open here in Fort Lauderdale and I do frequent one early afternoon so there’s not many people there at all. They have an outside area where I pleasured myself at a distance with someone else watching and pleasuring themselves. It was a hot experience and like one of your readers stating, new rules for this kind of environment. It was refreshing since it gave me hope for some normal activity soon. I cannot wait until I can experience a trip with you. I love to be on a sailboat and being nude with other men on there and the views. Not sure if I’ll make 2021 or not. I would love it though.
Hi Dale, as more and more people get vaccinated, we’re also hoping for better days ahead. We do hope you’ll consider joining one of our trips, we’re excited to meet more of you on board! – Darren